Talking with younger family members about dementia this holiday season

The holiday season is a time for family gatherings, celebrations, and shared memories. However, for families affected by dementia, it can also be a time of difficulty. 

When a family member is living with dementia, discussing their condition with children is important to help them understand the changes they may observe. We understand that approaching this conversation can be challenging. 

In this article, we'll outline some tips for approaching these conversations with youth this holiday season and hopefully help to make those conversations easier.

When talking to children about dementia, it is important to consider their age and level of understanding and to avoid using medical jargon and complex terms. Instead, focus on the visible changes that the child may notice. 

Before the visit, have a conversation with your younger family member and help them prepare for potential changes they may experience. You can explain how dementia can affect emotions, memory, and social interactions, and that their loved one may act in ways that seem confusing or different from how they acted in the past.

A family member living with dementia may find participating in some holiday traditions challenging and need some extra support. It is important to foster empathy, kindness and patience in children by reminding them that these challenges are not intentional or deliberate. This will help younger family members appreciate the special little moments with the person who has dementia. 

There are fun activities that children can do that are meaningful for everyone. Find ways to modify your favourite holiday traditions to allow everyone to participate in ways that are comfortable for the family member with dementia. Some activities can include playing a game, watching a holiday movie or making baked goods together. These activities provide connection and quality time and create new memories.

It's good to remind children of the positive aspects of their relationship with their family member, such as the importance of spending quality time together and memories the whole family shares. 

For younger children who may not remember a time when their loved one didn’t have dementia, tell them stories about their family member’s life, including the things they enjoyed doing and some of their accomplishments. This can help children to feel connected to their loved one, while they navigate the changes brought on by dementia.

Talking to children about dementia during the holiday season can be a challenging but important conversation. By approaching the topic with patience and empathy, and making thoughtful adjustments to traditions, you can set yourself and your family up for success this holiday season. 

If you need extra support in having these conversations, we’re here to help you. Call our Dementia Helpline at 1-800-611-6345 to speak to one of our knowledgeable and caring staff.