Ways to help

Visiting the person with dementia

• Arrange a convenient time for your visit
  Choose a time that is best for the person. Shorten your visit if he shows signs of fatigue.
• Communication is the key
  Use gestures as well as words. Pace the conversation allowing time for him to respond.
• Introduce yourself
  If he seems confused, identify yourself and why you are there. "It's Jane, I came to visit you today."
• Remember and laugh together
  Recall humorous experiences you both shared. "I remember when we both..." Take pleasure in each moment.
• Be prepared to listen
  People with the disease may want to share their feelings. Remain open and sympathetic.
• Establish connection through a common interest
  Continue your favourite activity together. Listen to music. Take a walk. Concentrate on the person's talents and abilities.
• Show that you care
  We all communicate through emotion, expression and touch. Holding a hand, or smiling when talking can convey more than words.

Caring for the caregiver

• Take time to listen
  Let her know you are available to listen when she feels overwhelmed and needs to talk with someone.
• Do little things -- they mean a lot
  If you're on your way out to do an errand, call and see if she needs anything.
• Give the caregiver a break
  Offer to visit with the person with the disease. Encourage the caregiver to spend time on a favourite hobby, run some errands or spend time alone.
• Provide a change of scenery
  Suggest an outing to the park or a visit to your home. Whenever possible, include the person with dementia in the outing. Choose an activity that everyone will enjoy.
• Keep in touch
  Maintain contact -- a phone call, card, e-mail or a visit means a great deal. The disease has an impact on all family members - spouses, adult children and even young children. Be attentive to their needs, too.
• Become informed
  Learn about Alzheimer's disease and how it affects the person and the family. Contact your local Alzheimer Society for more information.
• Stay the course
  It is a long journey for caregivers. Any support you can provide along the way will likely be appreciated.

Important things to know

People with dementia

• Need to feel valued
• May be concerned about how the disease will affect themselves and their families
• Need companionship
• Strive to maintain an active and independent life
• Have the same needs as each and every one of us
• Have abilities, skills and aspirations

Caregivers

• Often feel alone and isolated from friends
• May need assistance, but are often reluctant to ask
• Are often unable to do errands or complete household tasks
• Experience stress that sometimes affects their health
• Need regular breaks from caregiving
• Need someone to listen

Helping the Alzheimer Society

There are many things you can do to help the Alzheimer Society. Consider making a donation to support our work. Volunteer at your local Society or support a local fundraising event.

More information and resources

• Download the Meaningful Visits pamphlet, a handy reminder of common tips to make the most out of your visits.