7 Father's Day dementia tips

As Father’s Day approaches, I think back to my father's impact on me and my children, and I feel very blessed for my boys to have had the chance to know him.

Father's Day can be a meaningful and emotional time for individuals who have a father with dementia. It can bring up a range of feelings, including sadness, nostalgia, and even frustration. While dementia can affect how your father engages with the world and his ability to remember things, it's important to focus on your connection and love for him.

I was very fortunate to have had access to people who were generous in sharing advice for me and my father on our journey, and I thought I would share as they shared with me.

Remember to celebrate Father's Day while considering your father's condition:

1. Create a familiar and comfortable environment: Choose a location for the celebration that is familiar to your father, such as his home or a familiar family setting. Being in a familiar environment can help reduce anxiety and confusion.
2. Keep activities simple and meaningful: Plan activities that are easy to follow and tailored to your father's abilities. Simple tasks like looking through old photo albums, listening to his favourite music, or watching a favourite movie together can evoke positive memories and create a sense of connection.
3. Engage in sensory stimulation: Use sensory experiences to engage your father's senses. This can include aromatherapy with scents he enjoys, providing his favourite foods, or incorporating touch by giving him a hand or shoulder massage. Sensory activities can help create a soothing and enjoyable experience.
4. Focus on the present moment: While it can be challenging to witness your father's decline, try to focus on the present moment and enjoy the time you have together. Engage in activities that bring joy and happiness, even if it's just sharing a meal or spending quiet time together.
5. Involve other family members and friends: Celebrating Father's Day with other family members and close friends can create a supportive and loving environment. It can also provide an opportunity for shared memories and conversations about your father's life.
6. Be patient and compassionate: Dementia can make communication and interactions difficult. Be patient with your father and approach him with compassion and understanding. Focus on the emotions and connections rather than the specifics of the conversation.
7. Seek support: Caring for a loved one with dementia can be emotionally and physically challenging. Reach out for support from other family members, friends, the Alzheimer Society, or support groups to share your experiences and receive guidance.

Remember, every person with dementia is unique, and it's important to tailor Father's Day celebrations to your father's specific needs and preferences. Ultimately, the most important thing is to show your love and appreciation for your father, creating meaningful moments together despite the challenges posed by dementia.